Husband & Wife
What makes the perfect husband? How do you measure the perfection? Is it the breakfast in bed on weekends, the flowers every once in awhile, beautiful jewelry, or the trash going out without you asking? Perhaps your husband does none of those things- perhaps it’s just having him beside you at the dinner table each night, or watching him play with your children and seeing true happiness in his face.
What makes the perfect wife? How do you measure the perfection? Is it a hot meal every night when you return from work, never having to do a load of laundry, or birthday cards going to all your family without you having to remember a thing?
I started thinking about this when I read the following blog entry: http://www.childsplayx2.com/2008/06/married-with-children-2.html
This man, a father of twins, loves his wife and on their anniversary he is reflecting on their wedding vows and their relationship. The entry was so well written and so honest but it seems a bit like New Years Resolutions to me…you only think of them once a year. I hope that I reflect on my marriage and our relationship more than once a year- I believe I do.
I love my husband and he was the perfect pick for me BUT I can’t give you a clear list of all the reasons why. I can tell you he never brings me flowers (because he’s color blind and I’m a flower snob…at least that’s how I explain it to myself), he never brings me breakfast in bed (except for my 3.5 months on bed-rest), he bought me jewelry once- an engagement ring (which has since been lost) and he never took out the trash before the twins arrived. He does make me laugh. He always cleans his plate- though sometimes out of sheer hunger rather than enjoyment of my cooking. He makes our babies laugh. He’s started cutting the grass and taking out the trash without me asking. His smile is gorgeous and when he’s happy it makes me happy. He makes me feel safe and his confidence is contagious.
I love him because he’s proud of me. For example: Last weekend I sent him a text just after weighing in at weight watchers: “I lost 3 more pounds!” He responded: “You are superwoman.” Today I sent him a text message: “I made rep of the month at work.” He responded: “You are my hero.”
What makes you love your spouse? Is it clear cut? Do you know exactly why? Do you wonder why?
Childsplayx2 said,
August 3, 2008 at 5:34 pm
You raise a good point. I think as I was writing that post I too sensed that we don’t often enough reflect on how well we have it. Both my wife and I are trying harder to mention why we love each other so much. I think the first couple of years with the twins it was so difficult to even think about us when all we were doing was thinking about the twins.
Now that the twins are three and are much easier on a day to day basis, we are trying to be a couple again, rather than just parents. It’s not as easy as it once was but no one said it would be.
My blog is a time capsule for my kids and I try to write about their mother from time to time so they know how much I love her. But, truth be told, my wife is very uncomfortable with me expressing my feelings about her out in public so I try and limit it to special days like mother’s day, her birthday, and our anniversary.
I love your husband’s text responses, by the way. It sounds like you married the right guy!